Mum friends…

Motherhood is one of the few occasions when groups of adults are thrown together and forced to talk to one another, enabling friendships to grow. Depending on when you have children, your usual friends could be fully immersed in other periods of their lives. This leaves you going through the most monumental experience of your life, slightly isolated from your normal support network. Bring on the mum friends!

 

How do you make mum friends?

To begin with, mum friends are the people around you who are going through the exact same micro experience as you, often developed through antenatal groups or local baby groups.  Chatting about post-partum problems, feeding, sleepless nights and teething troubles, a good mum friend will stay with you through all of the highs and lows of becoming a new mum.  Over time these things move on to learning to ride bikes, passing spelling tests and planning sleepovers. The best ones are still there when your children are attending nightclubs together, booking their first holidays without you and maybe moving out of home!

Now don’t get me wrong, you won’t become best friends with every mum friend you make. It’s crazy to assume that because your children are the same age you will become friends for life.  You will be going through many shared experiences together, some of which aren’t easy, and this will give you chance help each other through the tough times and gain valuable advice and support from your peers.  If you share similar views on the big parenting issues and your children get along well, you have found yourself a great, long-lasting mum friend!

A great way to meet mum friends is to come along to a friendly group like Adventure Babies where, as well as brilliant course content delivered by early years trained class leaders, there is lots of time for chat and bonding for babies and parents.

Have you told your mum friends about Adventure Babies yet?

Hear from Emma who founded Adventure Babies how important word of mouth has been for Adventure Babies…

“When Adventure Babies started in Manchester in 2013 I only had about three bookings for my classes. I was feeling understandably nervous about the reality of running a baby class!

A wonderful lady called Claire who ran a class called Pram Active, @forbabyandmemanchester did such a kind thing that I will always be grateful for. I loved Pram Active and regularly attended, as you can tell by my smile in the pic! Claire was asking about how my new classes were booking up, and then offered to tell her group of mums about Adventure Babies. Through word of mouth, recommendations and the mum friend network, Adventure Babies not only began but really took off!

mum friends

Looking through our website now, 9 years later, I am still blown away by how many bookings come through friend recommendations. It must mean that you love our classes so much that you want your mum friends to come! That means so much to me.

Thank you everybody who has recommended Adventure Babies past, present and future!”

Emma xx

 

 

Motherhood

I guess that if you are reading this then you are a mother. What does motherhood even mean? Creating and birthing a child from your body, adopting a child, and then raising them? The most overwhelming, life changing decision we could ever make, to embark upon that journey. To become a mother. A decision perhaps taken so lightly and flippantly, to become a mother, when we look back on it. A choice that isn’t a choice, innate within us. Or for more women than you think, a journey frustratingly painful and seemingly unachievable at times.

It will change you
I used to be brave. I used to ride roller coasters, jump out of planes, drive fast, take risks. Not anymore. Motherhood demands a different type of brave, taking away some of the urge to take unnecessary risks in my case. The weight of responsibility is huge. Keeping your tiny human alive is a terrifying thing to comprehend and it doesn’t really dawn on you until they are there in your arms for the first time.

It will strengthen you
There are times, many times, when you think that motherhood will break you. Unknowing how deep your reserves are until that moment. The patience, compassion, love, the grit. You find yourself doing things you never thought possible. On the most basic level, everything will be now be done one handed. Discovering a love and passion on a level never before experienced. The fierceness of motherhood and feeling invincible morphs you into wonder woman at times.

It will exhaust you
A 24 hour a day job for the rest of the year… no, your life. Never stopping thinking, googling, playing, running, making, organising, planning, helping… mumming.

It will undoubtedly be the best thing you have ever done
Never before has my life had such a strong sense of purpose and never before have my feeling been so raw and honest. My heart is now running around outside my body, not at all in my control. It’s the best of the best and the worst of the worst sometimes all in the same 10 seconds.

Here at Adventure Babies we would love to hear your stories about how motherhood has changed you Adventure Babies Mamas.

Come and tell us on our Facebook thread

See which classes are available for new mums here