I had a big long chat on the phone to a faraway friend last night. She is going through a really tough time at the moment. Motherhood and being a partner, is a beautiful journey, filled with moments of joy and love, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges and tough times. She texted this morning to say sorry about the rant, but that made me feel terrible that she didn’t feel that she should talk to me like that.
We all know that motherhood can be overwhelming, and there are moments when it feels like the weight of the world is on our shoulders. During these times, it’s absolutely crucial that we reach out and talk about our feelings. Here’s why:
Emotional Well-being Matters: Just as we tell our children to express their feelings and emotions, we should practice what we preach. Keeping our feelings bottled up can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even depression. It’s essential that we take care of our own emotional well-being so we can continue to be the best mums we can be.
You’re Not Alone: One of the most comforting things about talking when you’re down and overwhelmed is realising that you’re not alone in your struggles. Sharing your feelings can open up conversations with other mums who may be experiencing similar challenges. Knowing that you’re part of a supportive community can provide immense relief and strength.
Problem Solving: When we talk about what’s bothering us, it often leads to problem-solving. Other mums may have faced similar situations and can offer valuable advice or solutions.
Sometimes, just verbalizing our concerns can help us see them more clearly and find effective ways to address them.
Modelling Healthy Communication: Our children learn from us every day. When they see us opening up about our emotions and seeking support, we’re teaching them a crucial life skill: healthy communication. We’re showing them that it’s okay to ask for help and share their feelings with trusted individuals.
Reducing Stress: Talking about our feelings can be incredibly cathartic. It’s like releasing the pressure valve on a pressure cooker. It allows us to let go of pent-up emotions, reducing stress and giving us a sense of relief.
Building Stronger Relationships: When we talk to others about our struggles, it strengthens our connections with them. It fosters empathy and understanding, deepening our relationships with friends, family, and partners.
Seeking Professional Help: Sometimes, the feelings of being overwhelmed and down are too much to handle on our own. Talking about our struggles can be the first step toward seeking professional help, such as therapy or counselling, which can make a world of difference in our well-being.
Remember, mammas, taking care of ourselves is not a selfish act; it’s a necessity. Our well-being directly impacts our ability to care for our families. So, when you’re feeling down and overwhelmed, please reach out, talk to a friend, family member, or a professional. You are loved and supported, and there is strength in vulnerability.