What Makes a Good Mum?
Some days, being a mum feels like trying to complete a 5,000-piece jigsaw while someone keeps hiding the corner pieces and shouting advice from Instagram. There’s no rulebook, no manual, and — let’s be honest — no “village” to fall back on anymore.
We’re raising babies in a world where there’s an article, expert, or influencer for every possible decision we make. Breast or bottle. Co-sleep or cry-it-out. Screen time or wooden toys only. Work or stay home. Every path seems to come with its own dose of guilt, and somehow, we’re expected to smile through it all while our coffee goes cold.
So what does being a good mum even mean in 2025?
💭 What Mums Are Really Thinking About
At Adventure Babies, we meet hundreds of mums every week — mums in leggings, mums in suits, mums surviving on caffeine and cuddles. And when we talk, one thing always comes up: the noise.
The endless advice. The comparisons. The quiet sense that we’re all supposed to be thriving — even when we’re just hanging on by the dry shampoo.
And beneath that noise? A deep, unspoken question: Am I doing enough?
Whether it’s worrying about milestones, juggling work and baby, or wondering when you last did something just for you, every mum seems to carry that same invisible backpack of guilt.
But here’s the truth: guilt is not proof of failure. It’s proof you care.
❤️ What Actually Makes a Good Mum
A good mum isn’t the one with the Pinterest-perfect nursery or a baby who naps to a soundtrack of whale music.
A good mum is the one who shows up.
The one who listens to her baby, even when she’s running on fumes.
The one who doubts herself but still gets up and tries again tomorrow.
The one who gives cuddles freely and forgives herself slowly.
Being a good mum looks different every day — sometimes it’s home-cooked purée, sometimes it’s toast crusts and CBeebies. Sometimes it’s a full sensory play setup, sometimes it’s a buggy walk just to get five minutes of peace.
The common thread? Love. Imperfect, messy, unconditional love.
🌍 Why It’s So Hard Right Now
Modern motherhood is brilliant and brutal. We’ve got access to more information, more opportunity, and more awareness than ever — but we also have less hands-on help, more judgment, and a workplace system that still hasn’t caught up.
It’s no wonder mums feel like they’re failing — they’re doing the work of a whole village, solo.
That’s why spaces like Adventure Babies matter. Not just for babies — but for you. Because when you walk into a room full of other mums who get it, something shifts. You realise your baby doesn’t need perfect. They just need you — tired, human, and wonderfully enough.
🌈 A New Definition of “Good Mum”
Maybe it’s time to rewrite the rules.
A good mum isn’t measured by milestones, muslins, or the algorithm. She’s measured by connection, presence, and love.
When you take time to read a story, sing off-key, or join a baby class even though you’re knackered — you’re not just passing time. You’re building your baby’s brain, trust, and sense of security.
That’s what being a good mum looks like.
Messy. Honest. Magical in the middle of the chaos.
💕 You’re Doing Better Than You Think
So next time that voice whispers that you’re not enough, remember this:
Your baby already thinks you’re everything.
The rest — the meals, the milestones, the endless advice — is just background noise.
And if you ever need a space to breathe, laugh, and reconnect, come and join an Adventure Babies storytelling and sensory class.
Because good mums don’t need to do it all — they just need a story, a cuddle, and a reminder that they’re already doing an amazing job.
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