Do Babies Really Need a Routine? What I Learned (and What the Experts Say)
Before I had a baby, I thought “routine” just meant brushing your teeth before bed and maybe trying not to eat chocolate for breakfast (didn’t always succeed). Then suddenly I had a newborn and was hit with a tidal wave of advice: “Babies thrive on routine!” “No, go with the flow!” “Never wake a sleeping baby!” “Actually, do wake them so they nap properly later!” Honestly, I didn’t know which way was up.
So I did what most of us do at 3am—I Googled: “Do babies really need a routine?” And I found out… it’s not a one-size-fits-all answer.
So, Do Babies Really Need a Routine?
In short: yes, but it doesn’t need to be the military-style schedule that Instagram might make you believe. Experts like the NHS and child development psychologists agree that while strict routines aren’t necessary (especially for newborns), gentle, predictable patterns can help babies feel safe and secure.
Think of it more like a rhythm than a rigid plan. Things like feeding, naps, storytime, bathtime—all happening in a similar order each day—can give babies little signposts that help them understand the world. It helps them develop a sense of time, reduces stress (for them and for you), and can even improve sleep.
Real Talk: What Worked For Us
At Adventure Babies, we see it every week—babies respond so well to the gentle rhythms of our sessions. The way we move from welcome song to sensory play to storytime mirrors the kind of comforting predictability that routines can offer at home. It’s not rigid—it’s reassuring. And it works for both baby and grown-up.
In my own world, I started small: story and snuggles before bed, baby massage after bathtime, sensory play before morning nap. Nothing fancy. But the repetition seemed to click. Less fuss, more calm. Fewer meltdowns (me and the baby).
What the Experts Say
Experts like Dr. Penelope Leach and the NHS agree: routines help babies learn what to expect, which can reduce anxiety and support emotional development. But there’s a catch—it has to work for you, too. A routine that leaves you burnt out or anxious isn’t helpful. The sweet spot is something flexible, responsive, and realistic.
You’re not failing if your “bedtime routine” is a boob, a burp, and a bounce on the yoga ball while watching Love Island. That still counts. Consistency doesn’t mean perfection.
Final Thoughts: Be Kind to Yourself
So, back to that question: Do babies really need a routine? Yes, but it’s okay if yours looks different from everyone else’s. Routines are a tool, not a rule. If having one helps you feel more in control and helps your baby settle, amazing. If it feels like another pressure, take a breath. You’re doing great.
And if you ever need a gentle, joyful routine you don’t have to plan yourself—come along to Adventure Babies. We’ll bring the story magic, the sensory sparkle, and the kind of rhythm that makes babies (and parents) feel right at home.
